We know any guy who walks into an adult chat room and approaches a girl he thinks is hot has his hands full right from the start. You want to be charming, even a bit dirty, but not offensive. Women aren’t looking for an elaborate line just someone who’s capable of establishing some sexual tension, making her feel alive and actually listening.
If you happen to be messaging her late at night… or you want to make the conversation more than just small talk, here are 21 sexy, flirty, and under the radar erotic things to say to her.
Flirty Icebreakers That Create Vibe, Fast
- “What is something that turns you on all the time outside of the bedroom? “Playful curiosity like this makes an opening line without being overly graphic.
- “In which of these compliments would you actually get horny?“Allow her to instruct you in the art of knowing what actually turns her on.
- “Anytime I take you out on a date… where would you want my hands to be then?“Ask her to picture it.
- “Are you more of a slow-burn tease or an all-in girl?” You‘re playing it slow… and teasing her while you‘re at it.
- “What is your guilty pleasure after dark?” Could be chocolate. Could be something even more seductive.
Get Her Talking About Herself In a Sexier Way
- “What‘s your biggest turn-on that most people wouldn‘t expect?“Everyone loves being seen past the surface.
- “More aggressive, more submissive or situationally experiences it depends?“Not all flirtation require emojis and this question offers dimensions.
- “How do you flirt normaly to someone you fancy?…”.Give him or her to be themselves with a sense of humor.
- “What‘s your ‘I know I look sexy in this’ outfit”.Fashion that you can think how attractive you seem in.
- “Which kind of notes really get you excited?” It also prepares you to send just the right kind she would enjoy.
Deep & Erotic (Without Being Crude)
- “What‘s a fantasy you‘ve never told anyone about?” While a bold move, it can create genuine chemistry when used in the right context in a respectful way.
- “Do you like the kind of kissing that slowly builds up or the kind that seizes control of the situation?“Moody without being explicit.
- “When do you feel the sexiest and why?” Give her the opportunity to tell you what makes her feel strong and wanted.
- “If I put a blind fold on you, where would you want me to begin?” Light kink friendly suggestion, open to having a bit of fun.
- “Are you a giver, taker or switch?“Sensual and a clever way to find out about sexual compatibility.
Tease Her Brain Then Her Imagination
- “Would you rather: One night of mind-blowing sex or a month of slow, teasing buildup?” Either way, you win-and it‘s all in the tension.
- “Describe your perfect night in…” but go into detail. Let her get up to anywhere she wants to.
- “if I were sitting next to you now, what is the first thing you would do?“Open-ended will generate better answers.
- ‘Shoot me your most sexy selfie or just tell me about it in excruciating detail.’ Sometimes the idea is more seductive than the picture.
- What entices you? Touch, smell and memory are deeply erotic triggers.
Bonus Tip: Don’t Just Text Build Anticipation
- Voice notes. Honestly your voice, slow and low, will add a lot of intimacy to simple sentences. Whisper something sweet, ask her what she‘s wearing or read her something from a book.
The Golden Rule: Flirt With Her Mind First
Sexy talk isn‘t about being dirty. It‘s about knowing how to play on her curiosity her mind and her fantasies. Make her feel that you‘re relaxed confident and that you want her more than anything else in the world.
And a reminder: Consent is sexy. If at any point the talk isn’t comfortable, back up. If everything’s feeling good, chemistry has unlimited potential.